One bit of research done by Harris Poll found that people who changed said it wasn’t status, it wasn't money, it wasn’t power that made them want to change — it was self-respect, affection, and acceptance. Those three were more important than the ones listed before.
You do know where you get those, don’t you? You get your self-respect from being respectable; you get your affection by being affectionate; you get acceptance by giving acceptance.
The principles taught in the Bible by the good Lord way back yonder still work today. Jesus said it very plainly. We call what he said the Golden Rule.
Do to other people the same things you want them to do to you. This is the meaning of the law of Moses and the teaching of the prophets. (Matthew 7:12 ERV)