Isn't that such a simple question? Wouldn't we better serve others if we asked them questions, listened to their answers, honored their request, and then affirmed their commitment and faith? Unfortunately we often think we know best how to help people, so we do what we think best rather than asking them what they need. While we can't honor every wish and sometimes people's needs seem self-evident and straightforward, asking them for input gives them the opportunity to share what's on their hearts, and to express their needs while at the same time it affirms their dignity at a time when they may feel like they have lost every shred of dignity.