When my proofreaders see this title, they will fix that dangling participle by adding an object to the preposition — "live beyond tomorrow" or "live beyond our children's faith" or "live beyond the present generation." Sometimes, however, what a phrase communicates is more important than grammatical correctness. We need to live beyond You would choose the object of the preposition that is right for your life. Here is what the phrase live beyond means in my life.
Whatever holds us captive, we must begin to live beyond the circumstances that limit our thinking, faith, focus, and actions. Yes, life in our world is full of all sorts of immediate demands. Yes, our personal situations press us to make immediate decisions. However, as Jesus' disciples, we are to be led by the Holy Spirit (Romans 8:14; Galatians 5:18). We are called to be different. We are to think, dream, and envision with the eyes of faith: not the limitations of sight (2 Corinthians 5:7).
Nowhere is our need to live beyond found than in our parenting and grandparenting. The common assumption is that parents are to live so that their children will have faith. I'm convinced that this way of thinking is shortsighted. As Christian parents, we end up creating this protective cocoon around our children, hoping they won't lose their faith. We put them in youth groups designed to keep them interested in church and not lose interest in their faith. Before long, our approach to our children's faith is about loss prevention. We lose our desire for them to live boldly and passionately out of fear of them giving up their faith. Also lost is a willingness to teach our children to risk and live life on mission for Jesus.
No wonder many of our children get bored with safe little youth group adventures. Should we be surprised that they have a wanderlust for a life that matters? We forget to expose them to the "wild at heart" kind of faith that goes with the Kingdom of God and authentic discipleship. They yearn to live on the edge of challenging faith, yet we do little more than teach them to play it safe while we entertain them with activities. They want to know that their faith means taking risks for what makes a difference in our world.
For years, I've advocated, written, coached, preached, and taught that we must live for our grandchildren to pass on their faith. To me, this is living beyond the moment, the messes, the mistakes, and the everyday mayhem of family life. This kind of living beyond is what Jesus taught in the Great Commission. It is also what Paul taught his apprentice, Timothy.
In the Great Commission, notice that Jesus didn't (just) say go make disciples baptizing them and teaching them what he taught. While those words are all in Jesus' commission, this listing of words leaves out a crucial concept, a crucial part of Jesus' command.
In every generation, Jesus wants his disciples to live beyond what normal religious folks teach and do. Jesus advocated something far more important than a loss prevention approach to our children's faith. He challenged us as parents, church leaders, and as members of God's family to approach life, church, and personal preferences from this living beyond perspective. Are we living in our family, are we doing church, and are we as members of God's family thinking about what we do and say and its impact on our grandchildren passing on their faith?
Jesus taught every new generation of disciples to go make disciples baptizing them and teaching them to obey what he had taught (Matthew 28:18-20). The Great Commission is about investing in new disciples so that they are equipped to teach someone else to make disciples. The Great Commission's work isn't fulfilled with a confession of faith, a person dripping wet from the waters of baptism, or a person who can quote Scripture. Our work isn't done until new disciples can train other new disciples to pass on their faith. That's living beyond just the coming generation to have faith.
But where's that fourth generation?
Where is that principle of living beyond for our grandchildren to pass on their faith?
Paul gives his personal testimony on living out the Great Commission to his son in the faith, Timothy:
You then, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others (2 Timothy 2:1-2).
To make these four generations plain, notice the following groups in this passage:
- Paul as the original speaker of Jesus' message.
- Timothy and the many witnesses who heard him.
- Who would entrust that message to reliable people.
- Who would then teach others to do the same.
To put that into family language, look at it this way:
- I am generation one, so I chose to live my faith in Jesus with passion and on mission.
- I imprint this message and passion on my children — physical children and children through faith.
- I live to help my children imprint this message and pass it on to my grandchildren.
- So that my grandchildren — physical grandchildren and grandchildren in the faith — can pass on their faith to the next generation.
That's why the following pictures of my son baptizing his second son are so important to me. We experienced the living beyond principle in that moment at a place we had shared many fun family times across three generations. We were seeing another generation of faith being expressed and celebrated in a way that touched the eternal.
Is living beyond more than just a feel-good family or church moment?
With all my heart, I believe that it is. I only wish I had come to this conviction a little earlier. Hopefully, I would have done a few things differently. However, I still have a close relationship with each of our children and hope I am influencing them to live beyond. God has also blessed Donna and me with two precious grandsons. These days I think a lot about legacy.
What do I have that I want to pass on through my children to my grandchildren?
Certainly, I have always wanted my children to have faith. However, this was never a loss of faith prevention plan. Instead, passing on faith was a regular prayer and an ongoing focus. Now that we have grandsons, living beyond is our passionate desire to leave a legacy of faith for our grandsons to pass on to their children and grandchildren.
As we shared Thanksgiving several years ago, we also shared family Christmas — it was the in-law's year to host Christmas. We were together at our son's house. We gathered as a family with our son and his family, our daughter, and a Chinese daughter through faith. Our daughter-in-law is a precious and devoted mom and a vibrant disciple of Jesus. She and our son made personal gifts for Donna (Nonnie to our grandsons) and me (Daddio). My Christmas gift let me know she knew my life's mission as well as anyone!
When I unwrapped my gift, it was a big white cross with "Legacy of Faith" written across the crossbeam. It had pictures of my dad (Daddy Al, who passed away when I was 25), me, our son, and our grandsons down the long vertical beam. I couldn't ask for a greater gift. They captured in this gift the essence of my life's primary work!
They came up with the idea because they know my passion for being a person living beyond the immediate moment and the current generation. They knew I wanted our grandsons to not only have faith but actively pass it on. When I graduate to the presence of Jesus in death, I hope to leave behind some Bibles for my grandsons, some traditional bows I've taught them to handle responsibly, some great memories of loving moments together, and a special white cross that reminds them that it's their turn to be men committed to live beyond!
How about you? How are you trying to live beyond? I'd love to hear from you: email firstname.lastname@example.org