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According to the Word of God, what are the "can and cannot do's" when it comes to a sexual relationship in a marriage? (In other words, is foreplay and intimately touching other parts of your spouse's body allowed) — J.P.

Twice on NBC's Today Show, I've been asked similar questions. It seems that a great number of people, Christian or not, want to know what the Bible says is okay in sexual practice. Before I summarize the "can," let's quickly examine the "cannot."

The Bible forbids:

My summary of the above pulls everything into three categories for people of God:

  • We may not have sex — in reality or fantasy — with any person other than our spouses.

  • Bestiality must never occur.

  • Nothing should be done that causes harm to either person.

Other than that, I see no Biblical prohibitions. In my understanding of the Bible, anything that does not violate any of the above three principles is quite okay for a married couple. Additionally, there are passages in the Song of Solomon that demonstrate that loving union between husband and wife can involve various activities addressing various parts of the body. As to one of the specifics you mention in your question, in Song of Solomon 4:16, it appears that Solomon's wife requested this. If you wish to know more, or have a deeper explanation, please write me at ask@JoeBeam.com.

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If you have a question about love and relationships, send them to me at ask@JoeBeam.com. I'll answer 1 or 2 questions each week, using my counseling experience, academic research, and a deep respect for God's Word.


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      © 2009 Joe Beam.

      Title: "Love Path 911: What is Biblically Appropriate?"
      Author: Joe Beam
      Publication Date: February 19, 2009

 
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