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They were legends in the marriage and family field. One of them, my dad's first cousin, looked at our pre-marital inventory results shaking his head. "I'm not sure about this. I'm not sure you guys can make. You are as different as night and day."

I knew where he had picked up the phrase. His mother and her sisters — one of whom was my grandmother — used the phrase often. I had been dating this young lady for three years and now this legend, and my cousin, was calling it all into question. Was it all for nothing? Had I wasted my time? Were we incompatible? Were we really, "As different as..."

When we read John's story of Jesus, we bump into two very important people in the story who are "as different as night and day." They are Nicodemus (John 3:1-21) and the woman at the well (John 4:1-43). A simple reading of each of their stories shows their easily recognizable differences:

Pharisee/righteous (John 3:1) — Samaritan/unclean (John 4:9)
Nicodemus (John 3:1) — Unnamed (John 4:7)
Man (John 3:1) — Woman (John 4:7John 4:27)
Religious Ruler (John 3:1) — Shunned (John 4:6-7John 4:16-17)
Came at night (John 3:2) — Came at midday (John 4:6)
Nicodemus initiated (John 3:2) — Jesus initiated (John 4:7)
Knew of Jesus (John 3:2) — Had no clue about Jesus (John 4:10)
Responded slowly (John 19:38-42) — Responded immediately (John 4:28-30)

Now back to my engaged couple's story. As I was scrambling in my heart and my head about what to do with the premarital inventory results, the other legend of marriage and family therapy sat down and said, "Now, now. I think you're being too hard on them. You know how my wife and I are opposites of each other and we help strengthen each other. There's been a rough patch or two, but we have found opposites attract! Now Phil, if you will learn to do this... and Donna, if you will learn to do this... then I think you guys can do great!"

Whew! My palms were still sweaty, but the greasy feeling in the pit of my stomach went away almost instantly. Looking back, I'm sure they were playing good cop and bad cop with us. And yes, we have had some rough patches because in many ways we are different. Yet over the years, we've also learned that we have a whole lot more in common than we have that is different.

That's also the point John wants us to see in his stories of Nicodemus and the woman at the well. If we tune our hearts to Jesus, we realize that these two were much more alike than they were different! Notice these similarities:

  1. Both stress the importance of water (John 3:3John 4:10).
  2. Both are looking for answers to their questions (John 3:4John 4:9).
  3. Both are searching for God's Messiah (John 3:2;  John 4:25).
  4. Both responded, influencing many (John 19:39John 4:39).
  5. Both involved talk about the Spirit (John 3:5John 4:23-24).
  6. Both heard something shocking from Jesus (John 3:10John 4:16).

Now as significant as these six parallels may be, I believe four more similarities are absolutely vital.

  • Both Nicodemus and the woman at the well needed the truth that is only found in Jesus (John 3:21John 4:22-24). While it is not popular to make any exclusive claim about anything, especially religion, Jesus makes clear that the only way to God is found in him (John 14:6). All religious roads do not lead to the same place. Both Nicodemus, a profoundly respected religious man, and the woman at the well who was part of a group that did not have the full truth (John 4:21-24).
  • Both Nicodemus and the woman needed life — life that is lasting and cannot be taken away (John 3:16-17John 4:13-14). Jesus brings this life to those who follow him.
  • Both Nicodemus and the woman needed to know that God loves all the peoples of the world, including them (John 3:16-17). In fact, God sent Jesus to be the Savior of the world (John 4:42).
  • Both Nicodemus and this Samaritan lady were outside the comfort zone of Jesus' followers. Notice the disciples are absent in the Nicodemus story — or at least silent and not mentioned (John 3:22). The disciples are shocked in the Samaritan woman story (John 4:27).

Jesus stepped into the different worlds of these special people to bring them truth, life, and love. As he does, he also calls us to do the same because even people "as different as night and day" from us, are actually more like us than they are different — they need Jesus: his truth, his life, and his love. Jesus still calls us to open our eyes and reach out and bring those outside our comfort zones — outside the walls of our religious buildings and lifestyles — home to him (John 4:34-38).

About the Author

Phil Ware
Phil Ware works with churches in transition with Interim Ministry Partners and for the past 18 years, he has been editor and president of HEARTLIGHT Magazine, author of VerseoftheDay.com and aYearwithJesus.com. For more details, click here.

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