A couple of days ago, I was talking with a friend who was in trouble — big trouble. He had been in trouble for a long time, but he hadn't been able to bring himself to talk to anybody about it. Now the criminal thing he had done was severely compounded by the alcohol he was drinking. He was desperate!

It seemed to insult him, when at one point in the conversation I replied to an element of his tale of woe with something like this: "You're not the first person who ever did something that terrible, and there are ways to address it."

Just let me be defensive for a moment. I was trying to tell him that he wasn't the worst guy in the world. I wanted him to know others of us had made some really bad moves, too. And I especially wanted him to believe that there were some known and identified things he could do to move ahead with his life.

What he heard appears to have been quite different. Nobody grasps how unique his situation is. Nobody understands how he was alternately "tricked" and "forced" into doing some of the things he did. And nothing is going to make things better — at least, nothing he is responsible for doing can improve things.

What he heard appears to have been quite different.

It seems possible, at least to me, that some of us have taken the notion of our unique personhood the wrong way. We sometimes want it to mean that we are exceptions to the rules everybody else should keep. We take it to imply that nobody could understand our plight. And we especially don't want to believe that personal responsibility and guilt attach to messes we've made. We want excuses and sympathy for the situation — not accountability and hard work.

With all my "uniqueness," I'm just "the same" as my friend. I can make excuses, too. I can project how the problem is everybody's but mine. I can even blame and judge. Then I can walk away without having to feel responsible.

The bottom line here is that each of us either chooses to see herself or himself as a helpless pawn in some cosmic game or to accept personal responsibility for living a life that is authentically human. The former is determinism; the latter is freedom. One is confining; the other is liberating. One defeats and limits you; the other unshackles and empowers you.

It makes all the difference to believe that what you do actually makes a difference. In that, we are certainly all the same.

Yes, each of us will have to give a personal account to God (Romans 14:12).

The End of Reason: A Response to the New Atheists by Ravi Zacharias Zacharias cuts to the core of the atheist problem and presents a case for truth resolving itself in a presentation of God in the person of Jesus Christ as the intelligence behind the universe, and the end (the culmination, not the cessation) of reason.

Rubel Shelly preached for the Woodmont Hills Churchin Nashville for thirty years. He is the author of more than 20 books. He has accepted the position of President of Rochester College. For more details, click here or here to email.

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