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Do you recognize and understand the roots of your anger? I want to discuss five steps for managing your anger in this column, and next month I want to discuss discovering your style of anger management. But first, what does the Bible say about anger?
|Do you know how your anger can affect you?|
The writer of James says that we should be slow to become angry, for mans anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. God desires that we master our anger in order to be good examples to our family and community.
Here are the Five Steps for Managing Your Anger that I found on the internet. You can read more about anger from this wonderful resource.
Step 1: Awareness - Be aware of how you and others experience and express anger.
Step 2: Creating Safety - Make sure you and others are physically and emotionally safe.
Step 3: Understand Your Trigger Thoughts - Detect, dispute, and discriminate your irrational beliefs to create more productive effects.
Use your anger diary to determine the thoughts that lead you to anger. Be objective in looking at your thoughts. Challenge those that lead you to anger and change them to more rational and less anger producing thoughts. Get professional help to overcome those thoughts that you cannot deal with yourself or are having a tough time determining lead you to anger.
Step 4: Utilize Problem-Solving Techniques and Make An Anger Management Plan.
Step 5: Reflect On Your Progress - Dont be discouraged by failure. Failure is normal and part of the learning process. Have the courage to be imperfect and learn from your mistakes.
Jesus says in John 10:10 that he has come that we ...may have life, and have it to the full. We cant experience the fullness of life by carrying around a huge destructive load like anger. To have happy and full marriages, and families, God wants us to manage our anger. If we dont manage our anger, we can look back with shame and regret at how we let anger take the very best out of our life; just like Tom.
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