Ideas for High Impact Parenting|
by Ron Rose
The following suggestions were collected during my research for the book 7 Things Kids Never Forget. Parents who practice these things will become influential, High Impact Parents, HIP for short.
- Fill your times with positive experiences.
- Do unusual or outlandish things just for the kids.
- Discuss difficult and critical issues, even if your children seem disinterested.
- Take your children places where they will be challenged to see beyond themselves.
- Expect your children to behave and hold them accountable for their behavior.
- Play with your children regularly.
- Dont try to be perfect, just spend lots of time.
- Find ways to surprise and delight your family.
- Provide time for grandparents and grandchildren to share secrets with each other.
- Encourage grandparents to share their stories with your children.
- Build a team relationship with those people who are significantly involved with your children.
- Tell and/or read stories to your children even before they are old enough to appreciate it.
- Listen to your childrens stories and encourage them to tell about the events of the day.
- Read aloud stories that will plant seeds about character traits that you value.
- Make up stories using your child as the hero.
- When your children fail, make sure the first thing you do is share their pain.
- In order to teach your children how to handle tough times, help them get all the facts into perspective.
- Learn to accept failures with a bit of humor.
- Encourage your children to learn from failure by accepting responsibility.
- Teach children how to deal with failure by modeling confession and forgiveness.
- Teach children that forgiveness doesnt take away the consequences or the memory, but it does give us hope.
- Help children learn that the greatest failure comes from hiding shame and denying guilt.
- Replace If only with Next time. This simple change keeps you focused on the future, not the past.
- Encourage your children to claim their own personal spaceits an early milestone.
- Give your children the opportunity to sleep over at the house of a friend or relative.
- Consider each grade of school as a milestone that gradually helps children gain information and wisdom.
- Allow your children to experience life beyond the boundaries of your protective eyes.
- Consider the phone and the car as extensions of your childrens life. Celebrate their ability to use them responsibility.
- Encourage your children to try different jobs.
- Respond with sensitivity when your children tell you about their crushesnever tease, or embarrass them in front of their friends.
- Encourage your children to make a personal commitment to their faith.
- Remember that convictions are shaped early by both, the sights, and sounds of home.
- Confine your lectures to a few basic principles.
- Make the rules; enforce the rules; and, live by the rules.
- Learn how to forgive before you are asked, and pass that ability on to your children.
- Coach your children through crises; dont rescue them.
- Encourage your children to talk about their worries and concerns.
- Reduce your childrens stress by showing them how to pray.
- Learn how to be a crisis coachlisten without judgment, make sure the facts are accurate, and help the child take appropriate action.
- Search for things to laugh abouthumor helps everyone stay balanced.
- Look for signs of paintears, aggressive behavior, withdrawal, etc.
- Help children to learn that there is nothing too sad or too terrible to be talked about.
- Look back on the disasters your family has faced together and talk about what you have learned from them.
- Showing your children how much you love each otherin spite of imperfections.
- Develop birthday rituals that celebrate life and love and each persons unique gift to the family.
- Make your family traditions fun.
- Attend family reunions and stay connected to your relatives.
- Bless each child by telling him or her about the wonderful person you see developing.