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sings rather than being thankful for them. Like adults, most of childrens complaints dissolve up against the tremendous blessings they have.
By the way, Morn and Dad, are you throwing sulfuric acid onto your marriage relationship? By that I mean complaining is just like acid; it corrodes joy, dissolves good attitudes, and eats away at intimacy. Spiritually, it is dangerous and deadly too. So lets acknowledge that complaining isnt just a childrens issue!
Complaining corrodes joy, dissolves good attitudes, and eats away at intimacy.
The Old Testament book of Numbers could be entitled The Complainers Chronicles. The children of Israel grumbled against Moses, Aaron and God. They complained about manna, so God gave them quail to eat in the desert. Guess what? They began to complain about the quail too. But the complaining wasnt a trivial matter, and God did not view it lightly. He had delivered them from Egypt and was providing for them daily. They were just plain ungrateful. Look around your house and home, what has God provided for you and your family? When was the last time you thanked God for your spouse, instead of complaining about what s/he didnt provide, do, support, or affirm? When was the last time you thanked your spouse?
Complaining is a symptom of more serious heart diseases that get progressively worse the more we complain. So what is the solution for our adult griping and complaining? Dennis and Barbara Rainey offer the four following answers to our dilemma.
Complaining is dangerous
Grumbling and complaining shows a loss of perspective, a failure to remember who is in control. God did not let the complainers see the Promised Land, only their children got to see it. I wonder how many of us God has declared unusable because of our poisoned hearts? Turn your heart outward and put your focus on someone that is fortuanate than yourself, then make the effort to help him or her. It is amazing how fast our hearts and our attitudes can refocus on what is really important when we help others overcome their problems.
Remember God knows what He is doing
Joseph who is tossed into a pit and sold by his brothers, sold into slavery, unjustly accused of fooling around with Potiphars wife, thrown into prison, and then forgotten by a friend he had helped. Yet Joseph is a great example of trusting God. Scripture does not record a single complaint that came from his lips! What an example Josephs trials are for us when we compare them to of our petty little problems!
Put away past complaints that may become bitterness
Bitterness has been researched and found to physically harm the human body. If you have a complaint against a brother, go to him in private and clean the slateventing your frustration must be done at the right time, in the right place, with the right constructive attitude, but it must be done.
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, and give thanks in all circumstances (1 Thess. 5:16-18)
This scripture is easy to quote, but it is hard to live. But we will all find it hard to complain. when we are always rejoicing and talking to the Lord about all the ways he has blessed us.
When we are in our homes and with our families and we feel like complaining, lets sit down and meditate on all that God has blessed us with and make a conscious effort to unleash the toxic and deadly sulfuric acid on the soul, by complaining.
RESOURCE: This excellent material on us complainers comes from the book Moments Together for Couples by Dennis and Barbara Rainey. You can find the daily devotions about this subject in the meditations for October 15 and 16.