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Winning Over Anger, by Charles R. SwindollOne of the biggest challenges we face as men is learning to handle our anger appropriately. We know we can’t bottle it up and pretend it isn’t there; “don’t let the sun go down on your anger” the apostle Paul said. But what do we do about it? Chuck Swindoll offers us some good and Godly advice from God’s Handbook on Holy Living, Proverbs.

    What do we do about anger? When it comes from a wrong motive, when we don’t get our own way, when we act in haste—anger is sin. What practical things does God say about dealing with anger? Scripture offers four specific directives in the book of Proverbs. Let’s cover them quickly.
  1. Learn to ignore petty disagreements.
    A man’s discretion makes him slow to anger,
    And it is his glory to overlook a transgression
    (Proverbs 19:11).
    Perhaps it is better rendered in the Berkeley Version.
    It is prudent for a man to restrain his anger; it is his glory to overlook an offense (MLB).

        In God’s eyes, it is glory if you are big enough to overlook an offense. Don’t look for a fight, Christian. Keep the chip off your shoulder. Don’t be defensive about your point or your right. Be willing to give.

        Proverbs 17:14 says essentially the same thing. I like this verse.

    The beginning of strife is like letting out water,
    So abandon the quarrel before it breaks out.

        Just as in the tango, it takes two to quarrel. If you see that there is an angry disagreement coming, back off; leave it. Learn to ignore petty differences.

  2. Refrain from close association with anger prone people. Don’t hang around them.
    Do not associate with a man given to anger,
    Or go with a hot-tempered man,
    Lest you learn his ways,
    And find a snare for yourself
    (Proverbs 22:24-25).

        Are you becoming an angry person because you’re associating closely with angry people? The Scripture says, “Don’t do it!”

  3. Keep very close check on your tongue.

        Washington Irving made this statement, “The only edged tool that gets sharper with use is the tongue.” It isn’t your leg muscle that’s the strongest muscle in your body; it’s the muscle in your mouth. Control your tongue. It will literally “turn away wrath.”

  4. Cultivate honesty in communication…don’t let anger build up.

        Take a close look at Proverbs 27:4-6.

    Wrath is fierce and anger is a flood,
    But who can stand before jealousy?
    Better is open rebuke
    Than love that is concealed.
    Faithful are the wounds of a friend,
    But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.

        We evoke anger when we have deceived someone else with our words for our own benefit. When they realize they've been had, they’re not just angry, but we’ve betrayed them.



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Taken from the booklet Anger: The Burning Fuse of Hostility (Zondervan Publishing House, 1995). It is available online from Worthy Books, at your local bookstore, or by calling 1-800-727-3480. Used by permission.
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