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by Joe Beam
The sad truth is that the vast majority of marriages even Christian marriages have failed to achieve ONEness. Too many husbands and wives live in marriages that range from empty and unfulfilling to miserable, often wondering how in the world they got into their marriages and wishing for a way out. We at FDI continually hear a statistic that our work with thousands of couples leads us to believe is accurate. It says that only one in four marriages is happy.
One in four.*
Scary, isnt it?
If true, this means that 75 percent of married couples exist in a marriage without the intimacy God intended. Unhappy and unfulfilled, they remain in their marriages for one reason or another religious values, children, economic reasons, lack of alternatives, and the like. Some accept their sad state, believing that nothing can be done, and try to find other things in their lives to fulfill them. Others cannot accept such an empty union and grow angrier by the day, fighting and quarreling until the marriage explodes into fragments that even professional marriage therapists cannot put back together. Still others try to ignore the need, pretending that things are okay, until one day one of the partners finds that he or she has fallen in love with some one new.
Maybe your marriage is one of those unfulfilled ones. Is it possible? Might you be unfulfilled and unhappy in your marriage? If you have the accompanying workbook, Becoming ONE: Exercises in Intimacy, the first exercise in chapter 1 should help you get an idea of how satisfied you really are. We suggest you complete it and see. Why? Because if you arent happy in your marriage, then you like the rest of those in the 75 percent category are a perfect target for satanic attack. No Christian should be naive enough to think that Satans evil ones would bypass such a great opportunity to sow their seeds of discord, discontent, and deceit.** If youve settled into lethargy about your marriage, bad times are coming.
Remember Sam? He didnt walk into that strip bar because of sexual addiction or even overpowering sexual temptation. Sam didnt know it, but what drove him into that bar was his craving for intimacy sexually, emotionally, and spiritually. Because he didnt understand the true inner need that propelled him, all he keyed on was his lack of sexual fulfillment. Too godly to openly seek out a paramour, he instead paid to watch provocative women. In his emotionally confused state, he was unaware that once he crossed that barrier, he opened himself up to whatever impulse seized him next.
His unconscious search for intimacy led him into an act of degrading sin.
Dont be so spiritually and emotionally naive as to think that a similar delusional process couldnt happen to you or your spouse.
* FDI is Family Dynamics, Joe Beam's organization for working with couples, training facilitators, and providing resources to help marriages grow stronger and couples develop deeper intimacy. You may contact FDI at 1 (800) 650-9995 or by going to the their website http://www.familydynamics.net
** For an in-depth study of the spiritual warfare waged on earth today between the forces of evil and the forces of God, read Joe Beam, Seeing the Unseen (Howard Publishing, 1994).
Author: Joe Beam
Publication Date: February 15, 2002
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